South Korea: Adoption, Abortion, and Dog Meat
by Richardson ~ August 13th, 2007. Filed under: Korean Culture, Korean Politics, Law.Koreans are generally more sensitive than other nationalities to outside (i.e., international) criticism or scrutiny and obsessed with their “place” in world rankings. So these three articles caught my attention; a series on a movement to stop foreign adoption, misleading abortion statistics, and the praises of dog meat, all of which can be seen as nationalistic reactions to less than favorable international attitudes about Korea in those areas. I won’t delve into the well-covered areas of fan death or the infamous Dr. Hwang.
A movement has been started to legally prevent Korean children from being adopted outside of Korea:
A group of mothers who gave their children up for adoption by foreigners in the ‘70s and ‘80s have begun a campaign to end overseas adoption.
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The group says that recent measures taken by the government to encourage domestic adoption have been a failure and that the tide of Korean children being sent overseas is unabated. They are seeking 1 million signatures on a petition urging the government to do more.
Seventy percent of single mothers in Korea give up their children for adoption. In 2005, the last year for which reliable figures are available, 2,101 Korean children went to new families overseas.
“Participation [in our campaign] only means that you believe South Korea must take care of its own children from now on,” said Trenka.
It is very sad and unfortunate that some of these mothers now have regrets about what they did in the past, but a law will not solve the problem. The real issues are not addressed: why did they feel (aside from being poor) that they had to give their children up, and more importantly, what to do with all the unwanted children if adoption is illegal? Orphanages? More abortion?
This article lays out a specific situation:
Among the members of Mindeulae, Kim Young-suk is known as “Eun-seon’s mom,” which is her way of reminding herself of a decision she made almost three decades ago and has often regretted. In 1978 Kim signed an adoption consent form and felt so much guilt and shame that she kept her past to herself as a punishment.
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Kim’s trials and tribulations began when she lost her husband in a car accident at the age of 28. She was left with two children, aged three and one, and no insurance, government subsidy or support from her family. Within a few months she ran out of money to pay her rent, but nobody would help her. She turned to her mother in-law, but her pleas were rejected.
In 1978, Kim felt she had no good choices left. She took her youngest daughter, Eun-seon, to an adoption agency in northern Seoul and signed an agreement to relinquish her daughter that same day.
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For three years after she signed the adoption consent, Kim visited the adoption agency to get basic information about her child’s status. But she was repeatedly rebuffed by the agency’s secretary who said she was protecting the privacy of the child’s adoptive parent. When Kim insisted, the agency accused her of behaving capriciously when she gave up her child.
Overwhelmed with shame, she never returned to the agency and never really moved forward with her life either. She never remarried and kept the same phone number for 30 years, so her youngest daughter could find her mother.
Her rights as a birth mother, as with most Korean women who gave up their children, were effectively terminated by the adoption procedure.
Many Western couples who want to adopt a child continue to choose a Korean baby because the rights of birth mothers in the adoption registry here are deliberately skewed to give more power to adoptive parents.
This is in stark contrast to Europe or the United States, which allow birth mothers to select the child’s adoptive family and location, making it much easier for reunions to take place later.
Kim had a tough choice, but adoption is after all a legal procedure that is meant to be permanent. That is the nature of adoption.
I’ll also throw down the bullsh*t flag on the assertion that Westerners go to Korea to adopt, “because the rights of birth mothers in the adoption registry here are deliberately skewed to give more power to adoptive parents.” They go there because they want to raise a child, and Korea has, excuse the crude terminology, and an excess market.
There is also a false implication about U.S. adoption laws, though I’m not sure about those in Europe; the U.S. does indeed protect the adopting family.
This gets to the heart of the issue:
Over the past few years the Korean government has tried to promote domestic adoption, suggesting it as an alternative to in-vitro fertilization for couples who have difficulty conceiving and to reduce the stigma of being known as a “baby-export” country.
Last year the Ministry of Health and Welfare introduced a law that requires all adoption agencies to try and find Korean parents for the first five months of a child’s registration. The new law also extended the right to adopt to single parents and to couples with five children or more.
Yet the number of children being sent overseas for adoption hasn’t fallen since the law was passed.
One reason is the ongoing fear that people will know a child is adopted. The other is the emphasis on blood, which limits the children some adoptive parents are willing to accept to infants with the same blood type.
There is also the steady demand from adoptive parents in the United States and Europe, who pay higher compensation to Korean adoption agencies than the small subsidy provided by the Korean government for domestic adoptions.
The bottom line is that Korean society stigmatizes adoption. My wife’s aunt adopted a daughter and they didn’t tell her until she was well over twenty years old. More people ought to in Korea, but they don’t and the government will only make unwanted Korean children languish in orphanages for five months needlessly.
And some adoptees themselves have been pulled into the urinara mindset:
As the biggest-ever meeting of Korean overseas adoptees wraps up its five-day event tomorrow in Seoul, another group of adoptees has a different goal: ending the practice of overseas adoptions altogether.
Jane Trenka, a 35-year-old U.S. adoptee living and working in Seoul, said yesterday that about 100 adoptees she organized will stage an anti-overseas adoption protest at the Dongguk University subway station in central Seoul. A group of dozens of birth mothers who put their children up for adoption will join the protest, the first of its kind by Korean adoptees, Trenka said.
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Birth mothers in Korea are forced to send their children overseas for adoption because of the lack of a social welfare system here, Trenka said.
That last sentence is complete propaganda; Korean children are sent overseas because Koreans don’t want them or the stigma Korean society attaches to adoption. The example given above was about money, but that is not the reason in the vast majority of cases. It continues:
Trenka, author of a book about the issue, said adoptions are a form of violence against the birth mother, because Korean society frowns on the idea of a single woman raising a child. Thus, the single woman has no choice but to give up the child.
She compared the issue to the so-called comfort women, who were forced to be sexual slaves for Japanese soldiers during World War II.
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Trenka grew up in a small town in Minnesota and studied piano and English literature in college in Minneapolis. She said said her adoptive parents gave her everything she needed, but didn’t encourage her to find her birth mother.
“No choice”??? No, no easy choice. There is a difference. And of course her parents didn’t encourage her to find her birth mother; they are her parents!
Moving on to the next issue; abortion. The title of this article, “Women With Sons More Likely to Seek Abortions,” seemed odd since there is an undeniable preference for sons in Korea and East Asia in general. Turns out to be a specious conclusion uncritically accepted by the journalist:
The abortion rate of women who have sons is higher than those who have daughters. This was the finding of the College of Health Science at Yonsei University.
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In particular, women who have only sons have seen a 3.2-fold higher abortion rate than those who have only daughters. The abortion rate for women having only one son was 16.5 percent while that of women who have more than two sons was 71.7 percent.
In contrast the abortion rate for women who have only daughters was 15.9 percent while those with more than two daughters was 42.4 percent. Prof. Chung said that the result indicates that women having sons are more likely to seek abortions.
Professor Chung put the findings in an odd way; the reality is that women don’t seek more abortions because the have sons, they have sons because the had abortions (presumably of female fetuses). Women pregnant with daughters actually seek more abortions, women who have given birth to sons have had more abortions.
And this last story on dog meat (h/t Nomad) takes the cake, eh, boshintang:
Korea is now an industrial society with large urban populations. The influence of Western culture, which regards dogs as pets, plus protests by the Korean Society for Animal Protection, have made some people have second thoughts about eating gaejangguk.
The issue becomes more controversial on bok days (the last bok day of this summer is next Tuesday) and Koreans are today in intense debate about the merits of dog meat.
Professor Ann Yong-geun of Chungcheong University waded into the controversy last month when he said that there is a nutritious property of dog meat that cannot be proven by Western medical science.
He said in a CBS radio program that although dog meat has less protein and fewer minerals than pork, chicken or beef, eating dishes like gaejangguk and boshintang (dog stew) mysteriously allow more energy to enter the body.
Drawing on folklore, others say that dog meat is good for stamina, the liver and the stomach, as mentioned in the Donguibogam, a medical text written by the physician Heo Jun in the Joseon Dynasty.
Also, dog meat eaters believe that the meat is low in unsaturated fat and high in protein with low levels of cholesterol. Some even argue that yellowish-brown dogs are more nutritious for men and that women should eat black dogs.
It’s true, but can’t be proven by “Western” science. Can’t argue with that, literally.
Mentioned here is the, “influence of Western culture, which regards dogs as pets,” which is true enough. What is not mentioned is how the dogs are tortured to death. While for some the issue is just that dogs are considered man’s best friend and should not be eaten, something that those arguing for Korean culture latch onto and argue with via the cultural angle; but they never address the issue of torturing the dog to death.



May 29th, 2008 at 12:11 am
Your knowledge of adoption history seems to be lacking. You say that you have the background to write about Korean history and culture, but don’t you think you should do more research into the other subjects that you’re writing about?
“And of course her parents didn’t encourage her to find her birth mother; they are her parents!”
The history of adoption actually includes periods of open and closed adoptions, as well as closed and opened records; as well as the accepted idea that children could indeed have more than one set of parents. The way many cultures practice adoption today is not the way that all cultures practiced adoption in the past. Many children who were adopted in ancient and modern times knew who their birthparents were. On the flip side, there were also closed practices, too. Adoption can’t erase the fact that one of the meanings of “mother” and “father” is the biological component. That can’t be erased because a child is adopted by the parents that then raise and nurture the child. To acknowledge this is not to invalidate the adoptive parents. It is simply to honor the truth. Again, there have been cultures in the past that did acknowledge this.
“The bottom line is that Korean society stigmatizes adoption. My wife’s aunt adopted a daughter and they didn’t tell her until she was well over twenty years old.”
At the time when records were closed in America, adoption also became stigmatized and most children were not told they had been adopted. Professionals actually stated that you should not tell your child that he or she had been adopted. Ever. That idea has changed and being adopted is less of a stigma though one certainly wonders about why the “joke” “oh, you must’ve been adopted” is still considered funny but why it also has the power to sting and scare biological children–it must be because on a certain level being adopted is not considered equal to being a biological child. But it just goes to show that American’s ideas about adoption and what it means to be adopted and what exactly kinship means is still changing. Shouldn’t we also allow Korean society to have this evolution? Can you really claim that Korean culture is never going to change? I think the fact that these women are coming forward is proof that culture can indeed change.
Single, white women in the 50s were also forced to give up their babies because society did not find it acceptable. What if those children had been adopted by people in other countries? Can you honestly tell me that at some point people in this country wouldn’t eventually have asked “Why is this happening?” and “What can we do to change it?”
In fact, many countries that are placing children internationally are beginning to question doing this. If one doesn’t have a context to place this in–that is, the complexity of adoption history and the adoptive experience (from all angles)–it is easy to dismiss this as mere nationalism.
My purpose in writing this has not been to bash your opinions, but just to let you know that there is considerably more going on here that needs to be taken into account.
May 29th, 2008 at 4:29 am
Jane,
Thanks for the comments, but you’re completely off base. When a couple adopts a baby and raises her as their own, that couple is her parents. Period. Since in this case the girl was obviously adopted (different race), acknowledging the adoption is moot; which doesn’t change the fact that expecting the adoptive parents to “encourage her to find her birth mother” is absurd.
Nothing in what you write challenges the fact that Korean society does in fact grossly stigmatize adoption. Saying that America did at one time is a red herring and has nothing to do with the topic of this post. The assertion that what I write does not “allow Korean society to” change as well is another red herring. I won’t defend arguments that I didn’t make and have nothing to do with the topic I’m writing about.
June 6th, 2008 at 8:35 pm
I’m an adoptive mom; my children are both Korean.
In my experience, adoptive parents are increasingly supportive of their children’s searches for their first families. Adoptive parents don’t unanimously buy into the notion that their children have only one set of parents - them. My husband and I have done our best to make sure our children know that they have every right - and our support - to search and reunite and become a part of their first families, who we consider a part of ours.
June 6th, 2008 at 9:01 pm
Hi Margie,
My (Korean) wife and I have considered adoption. If we do, someday, we will consider ourselves to be the parents of any children we may adopt, not the parents who gave those children up for adoption.